What is Charisma?
Olivia Fox Cabane, in
The Charisma Myth, outlines three qualities she finds important for becoming a charismatic person (Cabane, 13). I would define a charismatic person as “somebody who is well liked or favored in and beyond his or her circles of influence.”
- Presence – She never actually defines this, but reading pages 13-17 gives the impression that presence is giving full attention to the people around you. Sometimes being a bit aloof can make somebody likable, but it's a risk.
- Power – “Being seen as powerful means being perceived as able to affect the world around us” (18). In general, this is a trait that makes people likable. We invent gods because we love power.
- Warmth – “Warmth…is goodwill toward others” (18).
Cabane's breakdown of charisma is very helpful. For instance, if somebody were to complain to me of not having friends or of having trouble getting people to like them, I would ask them whether or not they would rate themselves as possessors of these traits. It is certainly the case that people could be excluded unfairly on account of their attempts to be a good person or some form of issue based exclusion. But generally, if somebody is the black sheep in a group, it is because one or more of these traits are lacking.
Charisma and the Christian Life
According to the Bible, these traits are actually an important component of the
wisdom. If you are skeptical about learning charisma, recall that as Jesus “grew in wisdom and stature and in
favor with God and man. (Luke 2:52)” In other words, it's okay to be well liked and to even grow in the traits that make you likable.
Of course, for the Christian to “be persecuted for righteousness’ sake” is far better than being liked for compromising truth, goodness, or holiness. So, favor with God always trumps favor with man, but they do not always contradict one another.